(The Frisky) -- One would think that becoming engaged would make a woman happy, right? Patil spend their days tracking trends on Facebook where the roughly 400 million users give them a totally unprecedented insight into human behavior.Well, if status updates on Facebook are any indication -- and at least two research scientists say they are -- that theory is all wrong. Together, they study what Facebook calls the "Gross National Happiness Index," an application "that measures the positive and negative sentiments expressed in status posts," and what they've discovered is that becoming engaged makes women less happy than they were before getting engaged.The Frisky - Bad marriage may be a health risk "Maybe this is the effect of having to plan a wedding," Marlow told the San Francisco Chronicle in an article ("Researchers Study Behavior in Social Networks") that ran on May 12.

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That’s a hard question to answer, although that doesn’t stop people from trying to figure it out.

According to Dana Adam Shapiro’s research for his book You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married), very few married people are happy — he says about 17 percent. A lack of communication, dishonesty and adultery are among the top problems, he notes.

One poll finds that about six in 10 of us are unhappily coupled, four out of 10 say they have considered leaving their partner and one in 10 don’t even trust their partner anymore. The poll goes on to detail the most-mentioned problems, the top five being lack of spontaneity, lack of romance, terrible sex life, no time to give each other attention and lack of time to talk.

But if you're a man, then something else changes, it increases the negativity.

These fit the gender stereotypes so perfectly that it's almost uncanny." Facebook's "Gross National Happiness" prototype app As someone who has wasted too much time perusing a popular website that pokes fun at status updates from people who are happily -- often annoyingly so -- coupled up, I kind of have a hard time believing these findings.

It's all, "Ooh, another lovely evening at home waiting for the pizza delivery and watching my husband clip his toenails! " Whether these people are truly happy or just want people to think they are is open for debate, but I have a hard time believing they're illustrating "negative" tendencies.Then again, I deleted my Facebook account months ago, so maybe I'm simply missing out on the "woe is me" updates from the newly engaged and married.The Frisky: Kim Kardashian drowns her food in Windex Another finding the researchers have discovered is that "being in an open relationship 'is uniformly bad,' decreasing positive feelings by 15 percent compared with single people." Interestingly, it's women who are actually less negative about open relationships than their male counterparts. The Frisky: Bad breakup gave me more confidence On a different note, it's a little creepy that people on Facebook -- all 400 million of you -- are unwitting participants in these research studies, isn't it?As if there weren't already enough performance anxiety when writing one's status update.Now you've got to write about what you had for lunch and worry about what researchers think that says about your happiness level. Why are so many people unhappy in their relationship?